Anna1111 wrote:
Ummmm . . . ."Stop that!" . . . . there. Is that better?
Maybe if you give yourself smaller rewards, delivered for smaller accomplishments, it might be easier for you to persevere.
I find that works better for me. "when you've spent 10 minutes on this task, you may check your email" rather than "no internet till the room is CLEAN!"
I know everyone talks about the marshmallow test - how you should teach yourself to wait for the reward of two marshmallows rather than the "instant gratification" of one. But, I've managed to motivate myself a lot more effectively with one marshmallow at regular, short intervals rather than teaching myself to wait forever for two! Once you know you're a single-marshmallow sort of person, it's much easier to work with that knowledge
That used to work for me - the one marshmallow at regular intervals. It started back when i was first married and i would hear dh coming home up the gravel driveway! I'd look at the clock like
. I didn't know where the day had gone!!! (Reading, soap operas, game shows!) UGH! So, i'd do a task and reward myself with a chapter. But now, when i get the single marshmallow, i don't get back up til the bag's nearly empty!
Where'd the marshmallows go?!