Tami99 wrote:
Her tests showed the lower end of her grade level in some areas and below in others. But I don't see her progressing much for the grade she is supposed to be in now. Children her age know so much more.
She does not know all her addition facts off the top of her head. She needs to think and count. She can skip count for multiplication, but that is mostly because she learned songs for them at CC. If I ask her what 7x9 is, she would have to skip count the 7's on her fingers. Her IQ was overall average and she scored below average in one subtest.
She does not read well at all, but has gotten better. I got a Kindle for her and buy books with narration so she can read along with it and recognize the words.
I believe it's all her meds. She does not have any seizures. The meds cause focus issues and the ability to retain information and probably some behavioral issues. She is definitely impulsive and emotional too. She does have some sensory issues (sensitive to smells).
The psychologist said I should just accept that she won't ever be an A student.
A few thoughts here - in light of what you're saying:
I don't think Stacy's idea of a psychologist is a bad one, but it sounds like you've already been to one.
It is hard when you have one gifted child first to adjust to having one with difficulties after that.
If she's at the lower end of her grade level, there is no reason to despair - you're doing GREAT for a kid with challenges! Don't compare her to "children her age" but to herself & what God has given HER to work with. Some of our kids had challenges & were well behind grade level, others did great. The point is are they being Godly, Disciplined, & doing their best with what God Gave them, not whether they're doing better or worse than others their age. I think that it was Mother Theresa who said something like, "God does not call us to be successful, but to be faithful" If a gifted child is being lazy and ONLY 2 grades ahead of schedule, that is worse than a kid with a disability who is working hard & 2 grades behind.
The Nathhan site
http://www.nathhan.com/ might help you with specific ideas for special needs.
Discipline her for bad behavior (I'm not recommending harsh discipline here - or physical discipline, just some small consequence for *every* misbehavior - no matter how tiny). At the same time, inspire her to greatness - help her to believe in doing the right thing and trying hard. This excellent, very old FREE book, Jacob Abbott's Gentle Measures. . . . (another favorite of mine) might help you with discipline & inspiration both:
http://www.gutenberg.org/ebooks/11667Don't focus on the meds or her disability (whether they're at fault or not), but have high expectations of her, and expect her to work hard whether she excels academically or not. I've always considered the Annie Sullivan & Helen Keller story a great inspiration for working with kids with challenges. Watch the movie if you haven't done so in a while. Don't give her a "get out of jail free" card for her disability/meds. It does her no favors. I read a book a while back where a Mother of a Special Needs child said something like, "An adult with Special Needs won't be hired for her academic excellence, but for her personality & character - so I decided to focus most on my child's character development" - after reading that, I decided that was great advice for ANY kid - after all, nobody likes a temperamental genius, either! If a behavior she exhibits will get her in bad graces with a boss, then work on disciplining that bad behavior. If she's on these meds for life, she will have to learn to do her best to overcome the bad effects of the meds. She may never have behavior that is good as that of her older sibling, but she can learn to do HER OWN best in the situation & chemistry she is given.
My Mom was a professional teacher, and insisted that the advanced skills all build on the basic ones, and that the basic ones really needed to be MASTERED, or else many kids would have trouble (both academic & behavioural) when the "going got tough."
In light of that, and the fact that you say she doesn't read well, I would encourage you to check out and read "Why Johnny Can't Read" by Rudolph Flesch (You'll see me recommend it often on here). From what you say, it is very likely that at the root of both her reading & spelling problems is a phonics problem. This book will help you diagnose & remedy if in fact, that is the problem.
For math - work on those addition facts till they're perfect and FAST - even if she makes no progress on Multiplication this year. It would be better for her to be very skilled at the basics than to have poor grasp of the basics and advanced stuff, and be frustrated by everything she touches.
When you do study multiplication, an alternative method, like Ready Set Remember
http://www.amazon.com/Ready-Set-Remembe ... pd_sim_b_1 might help her out so she doesn't have to skip count on her fingers : )
I know this is a lot to throw at you - and unfortunately I'm not very "touchy-feely" or good at comforting words - but more of a factual type person. sorry about that.
But, the bottom line is, if at ten years old she has a normal IQ, no learning disabilities, is only at the lower end of her own grade level, there is lots you can do and lots you can work with! And, you have already overcome a lot if you have compensated for the seizure and meds difficulties thus far. Don't give up - keep plugging away! You can do it! : )