It makes it very hard to create "cause and effect" discipline. I tell myself "no internet until this is done" but i simply disobey myself! I don't follow thru on any reward or punishment for myself.
Any suggestions?
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| Author: | Sis [ Wed Jan 09, 2019 2:26 pm ] |
| Post subject: | I'm so disobedient! |
It makes it very hard to create "cause and effect" discipline. I tell myself "no internet until this is done" but i simply disobey myself! I don't follow thru on any reward or punishment for myself. Any suggestions? |
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| Author: | Anna1111 [ Wed Jan 09, 2019 3:57 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I'm so disobedient! |
Ummmm . . . ."Stop that!" . . . . there. Is that better?  Maybe if you give yourself smaller rewards, delivered for smaller accomplishments, it might be easier for you to persevere. I find that works better for me. "when you've spent 10 minutes on this task, you may check your email" rather than "no internet till the room is CLEAN!" I know everyone talks about the marshmallow test - how you should teach yourself to wait for the reward of two marshmallows rather than the "instant gratification" of one. But, I've managed to motivate myself a lot more effectively with one marshmallow at regular, short intervals rather than teaching myself to wait forever for two! Once you know you're a single-marshmallow sort of person, it's much easier to work with that knowledge 
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| Author: | Sis [ Wed Jan 09, 2019 5:05 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I'm so disobedient! |
Anna1111 wrote: Ummmm . . . ."Stop that!" . . . . there. Is that better? Maybe if you give yourself smaller rewards, delivered for smaller accomplishments, it might be easier for you to persevere. I find that works better for me. "when you've spent 10 minutes on this task, you may check your email" rather than "no internet till the room is CLEAN!" I know everyone talks about the marshmallow test - how you should teach yourself to wait for the reward of two marshmallows rather than the "instant gratification" of one. But, I've managed to motivate myself a lot more effectively with one marshmallow at regular, short intervals rather than teaching myself to wait forever for two! Once you know you're a single-marshmallow sort of person, it's much easier to work with that knowledge That used to work for me - the one marshmallow at regular intervals. It started back when i was first married and i would hear dh coming home up the gravel driveway! I'd look at the clock like   . I didn't know where the day had gone!!! (Reading, soap operas, game shows!) UGH! So, i'd do a task and reward myself with a chapter. But now, when i get the single marshmallow, i don't get back up til the bag's nearly empty! Where'd the marshmallows go?!
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| Author: | Anna1111 [ Wed Jan 09, 2019 5:12 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I'm so disobedient! |
You DO know that I mean *figurative* marshmallows, right? 'cause ain't nobody can turn down REAL marshmallows! 
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