Anna1111 wrote:
I understand your point, Sis - that's what the military always told us, too! You respect the rank, not the person.
But, at some point, I see it as a false dichotomy. I see (not saying I'm necessarily RIGHT ; ) that our husbands by definition DESERVE our respect. And, our parents, by definition deserve our honor & obedience. Even on their bad days : )
I definitely agree that King David did the right thing to respect King Saul - even when he was very sinful!
But, I see a big difference between "Wives, respect your husbands" and (the nonexistent command that is often perceived ; ) "Husbands, force your wives to show you respect"
But, if "Sir" means respect even with familiarity, why have I almost never heard a lady address her husband as "Sir?" Even if she's in the Church & believes in submission in the strictest interpretation?
On a personal note, I'd rather hear DD call me "Mommy" once than call me "Ma'am" 100 times. It just seems SO much more warm & loving : )
>>> But, I see a big difference between "Wives, respect your husbands" and (the nonexistent command that is often perceived ; ) "Husbands, force your wives to show you respect"
<<< Yes, the first part is the biblical command and the second part is sin. The wife NOT showing dh respect is also sin.
>>> But, if "Sir" means respect even with familiarity, why have I almost never heard a lady address her husband as "Sir?" Even if she's in the Church & believes in submission in the strictest interpretation?
<<< Because she is modern. It hasn't been all that long since husbands and wives called one another Mr. or Mrs. Whatever. And women did call their husbands "sir". As a matter of fact i recall one instance, at least, where a woman reportedly called her dh "lord"!
>>>On a personal note, I'd rather hear DD call me "Mommy" once than call me "Ma'am" 100 times. It just seems SO much more warm & loving : )
<<< Do you think it's possible that Mom is a derivation of ma'am? Perhaps a baby version of the word?