I am almost 63yo. I've basically been a Christian "all my life"! And yet, i still have so much to learn!
I do not consider myself a gossip but things have begun to surface where i can see that my flippant tongue has caused problems and pain.
At church today i was listening to a woman GOSSIP about a woman that GOSSIPS!
One of the things she told me was something this other woman said about ME!
I have no problem with that. I wish people would just be straight up to begin with. But she mentioned a time that i said, "Oh, Kathy can do it" and Kathy took offense. *I* was being flippant. Kathy is an extremely organized and get-er-done kind of person and she did have the situation in hand. But she was taken aback that i would "expect" her to do it. (I hope that made sense?) I did NOT expect her to do it.
And there's the dumb fb post i made where i said my siblings "didn't want" to take care of the parents. Again, flippantly. Just something to say that wasn't meant AT ALL.
There have been one or two other things like that where i am seeing that people have taken things i said much differently than i meant them but... i am learning not to be flippant. I try to measure my words before i say them and "my" humor will be kept more to myself.
A friend put a "poster" on fb that is Jesus saying, "You don't understand what i am doing, but someday you will." John 15:7
All i can think of is "He must be doing the new math"! I did not POST that! See? I'm learning. (I did ask what Bible that was in as that is NOT what John 15:7 says at ALL.) I figure by the time i am 70 i will be a functioning mute!.