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 Post subject: please keep my dd in prayer
PostPosted: Mon Sep 17, 2012 9:20 pm 
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She left out walking a good while ago now angry at me and at the world,

She does not have a cellphone with her, and i have no idea where she may have gone, it is dark and rainy now,

Also it is pointless for me to call the police to file a missing persons report because they will not come out at all or even take a report because she is eighteen, (I know this for a fact because of when my oldest son was missing and was later found dead, by my husband, and he wasn't out walking because he was mad, he was just impatient because he got finished working sooner than expected so he walked home because it was still daylight, and he'd walked that route before, but that day a drunk driver came down the road too)

Two of my sons have already went looking for her and could not find her, it is not safe for her to be out in the dark in the rain on these roads as there are no side walks at all.

Just pray that God keeps her safe and that she comes back before too long, it is really raining hard, I have nightblindness so it is pointless for me to go out looking for her,

I am emotionally drained at the moment,

*she is mad because I can't buy her a car right now, I can't send her to any univercity (I told her that she would most likely need to go two years at the community college and then transfer, because it would be less expensive and more doable)
She is mad about a lot of things I really can not do one thing about at the moment I really can't.

Anyway, just pray for her to be safe. and to come back before longer.

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 Post subject: Re: please keep my dd in prayer
PostPosted: Mon Sep 17, 2012 10:13 pm 
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Oh dear! I'm praying, Anna. I hope she's come home by now.


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 Post subject: Re: please keep my dd in prayer
PostPosted: Mon Sep 17, 2012 10:34 pm 
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Praying. It is hard to be 18, to have dreams, to have wants, to see the limitations rather than teh possibilities and the ways to work hard to make them happen. Praying for her safe return and for her to find a way to get the things she wants from life.


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 Post subject: Re: please keep my dd in prayer
PostPosted: Mon Sep 17, 2012 11:05 pm 
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She just walked in a few minutes ago, she is soaking wet, well now she's in the bathtub but she was caught in the rain, she is still mad, and she still thinks that if I cant instantly fix everything thats wrong that I am just on purpose causing her difficulty,

She is studying like crazy for the SAT test that she's planning to take next month, and that would not be so bad, but a few years ago (right around the time our oldest died she flat out refused to do anything I said or her dad said concerning math, so she doesn't have the math that she needs, *I gave up trying to get through to her concerning math because she would bend over double screaming at me, about how that was NOT how it was supposed to be done, and it was just difficult)
She did just take a placement test at the college and she scored high enough on the english part to go straight into college level English, her math was at the remedial level but wasn't as bad as I thought it would be with the amount of math she has refused to do.

So she's staying up late now working through math books, doing practice SAT tests, and working on vocabulary words, she's wanting to do well on the test but she's not really sleeping, and she's just mad.

She is also mad because of so many things that are totally out of my control, and doesn't want to hear anything about how she can achieve things she wants to.

Her older brother is now saying some of the exact same things to her that we have been, and he also chose to go about things the hard way, and is just now at age 22 starting to comprehend things just a tiny bit. He still doesn't comprehend that things could be easier if he'd help out around here instead of just making messes, the messes are about to drive me insane, my dd does this too, I can clean things up or her younger brothers can and then she'll go in and undo everything, and she is copying her older brother in reguards to cleaning up after herself.

My two youngest are completely different from my three oldest, they listen a hundred times better, with the exception my youngest has a lazy streak at times.

Anyway, please pray for my dd as she also is making some poor choices in reguards to a couple things that are seriously worrying me.

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 Post subject: Re: please keep my dd in prayer
PostPosted: Mon Sep 17, 2012 11:12 pm 
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I think a lot is the age. I have 2 18 y/o's.. one is giving me a fit and like you say, refusing to do his share. He's settled down a little since we had it out last week. Actually done his school work without me teling him to!
They are at the age of wanting to be grown yet not mature enough.


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 Post subject: Re: please keep my dd in prayer
PostPosted: Mon Sep 17, 2012 11:41 pm 
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Tory wrote:
I think a lot is the age. I have 2 18 y/o's.. one is giving me a fit and like you say, refusing to do his share. He's settled down a little since we had it out last week. Actually done his school work without me teling him to!
They are at the age of wanting to be grown yet not mature enough.


It's really frusterating, especially since my fourteen year old is mostly more mature than both my eighteen year old and twenty two year old on a regular bases, he does have his moments but overall he seems to comprehend lots of things better and is more helpful that any of the others, without having to be told.
And right now he can't really help much around the house because of the fact being he has pulled the tendon in his shoulder (he broke his shoulder a few months ago playing football, and then other day threw a basketball and something snapped, the dr said its a pulled tendon and possibly a rotor cuff injury so that now makes three people in this house with a rotor cuff injury, lol not really funny but its all the same arm, and its all the ones who are most likely to do anything around the house, so right now a lot of nothing is getting done,

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 Post subject: Re: please keep my dd in prayer
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 Post subject: Re: please keep my dd in prayer
PostPosted: Thu Sep 20, 2012 6:34 pm 
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LindaS wrote:
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I sent you a reply just now, the other night was just a stressful day coming to a head, and a dd who is not sleeping and is doing more studying than anything else lately, then because I've not been feeling well and because I am also stressing about a lot of things we were both not very nice people.

I don't think she went far I think she most likely went around the circle, then probably just sat under a tree for a while, getting soaking wet before finally deciding to come in, then because she was close by the boys couldn't find her because of walking down the road to find her,

Anyway, today is a better day and she did apologize in her way for her behaviour, and she is currently in her room studying, she stayed up late last night studying and got up early today to study and basically has not stopped, she is stressing herself like crazy over a test that is not the end all to end all, but at this moment in time reasoning with her on that matter is not even possible, and the studying wont really hurt her, I am more concerned that she is not sleeping as much as she needs to be. She is exhausted.

You do have to give her an A though for determination and for putting her strong-will to a productive use *(studying is what I mean)

A few weeks ago she told me she was going to write 88 practice essays *she has no difficulty in the area of writing, writing comes naturally to her, but these are timed essasy's she's writing and finding the topic on practice SAT tests,
Then last night she bought a SAT study guide *this is a newer one, and showed me the math section, and told me she plans to do the math quizzes three times each over the next few days ((this is a lot of math)

I think she keeps up at the pace she's been going at the last few weks she's going to collapse from exhaustion pretty soon. Hopefully she won't but I am afraid thats the direction she's headed.

I guess I need to be thankful though because at her age, she could be exhausting herself by wanting to do something dumb like chase after boys (she has a couple of cousins her age who are and are posting on facebook about their "boyfriends etc. ) she is also not involved with drugs, or drinking or anything immoral, she just wants to study like crazy and lose her temper at times at the wrong times, lol I'm afraid she probably has inherited my temper in some areas which is really not a good thing, (I do lots better now adays and I never really lashed out at anyone, but when I'd made my mind up about something especially when I was her age, there wasn't a lot of anything that would change it, lol)

That kind of attitude is what caused me to walk 32 miles once (when I was her age I was married) my dh and me basically got into a bad argument one day just before he left to go to work, I informed him I would be in his truck that night (we had no phone only one vehical and I did not know anyone where we lived,) so of course he said "yeah right" so I told him I'll see you tonight, I was livid, lol (and I didn't scream that either, but I was in his truck that night, and had the blisters to prove I'd walked, it scares me now to think about that, I had blisters on top of blisters and even underneath of my toenails (all of them ended up coming off) *I didn't have proper walking shoes and I ended up walking a lot on the pavement because when it got dark I couldnt see where to put my feet, and there was no street lights or sidewalks where I walked, plus I was really dumb I didnt even take a flashlight, then being in the mtns it really got dark, lol,

Anyways, I'm pretty sure I know exactly where her mean streak comes from at times, I just hope she continues to channel her energy into the right direction, and doesn't have as many blow-ups as I did at her age, I am very thankful she is not like I was in some areas when I was around her age,

Well I chatter a lot, she did finally come in soaking wet, went and took a long hot bath, then by the next afternoon was doing much better in temperment which is a lot better than I would have been at her age. :)

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 Post subject: Re: please keep my dd in prayer
PostPosted: Thu Sep 20, 2012 10:40 pm 
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Anna, consider that she may be hurting. She lost a brother when he was about her age.
I know it's no excuse for bad behaviour, but it is something to consider that she may be struggling with it.
My dc have all gone through stages of their grief. My ds is going through another stage right now, in fact.
They (our dc) dont' want to discuss it with us because they think it'll make us sad or upset. Sometimes WE have to be the ones to bring it up in a quiet moment... when they will feel like sharing.


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 Post subject: Re: please keep my dd in prayer
PostPosted: Fri Sep 21, 2012 1:06 am 
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I'm pretty certain she will sleep when she really needs it most. Many kids her age are not sleeping enough on a regular basis. It does not make them the most pleasant to be around at times because tired people tend to be crankier. I've been there, done that. ;)

I'm glad she is focused on a goal and willing to work towards it.


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